A Mean Man?

The boys and I got home tonight after helping my dear friends clean the floors of their home that they just moved out of, picking up some surprise fish for the boys fish tank, looking at remote control airplanes and enjoying one anothers company only to learn that somebody who doesn't know our family believes that I am a mean father.  Natty has been bothered by some things that were said by one of the young women in the ward about me and also about her.  I really have no idea what was actually said or if anything really was said.  What I do know is that it caused me to reflect on how I treat my family.  Do I act in a way that would cause someone to believe that I am a mean man?  I seriously don't believe that I do.  Am I strict?  Well, yes.  I have to be but I am not an abusive or mean strict.  I do my very best to exercise patience.  I rarely use any form of physical discipline, meaning spankings.  I can't even remember the last time I had to spank anyone.  I do get a little cranky now and again when it is bed time and the kiddos are dragging their feet.  I do get a little cranky when they are fighting with each other.  I do my best not to yell at the kids but there are occasions that call for a louder voice.  I don't know exactly where I am out of line or what I am doing to cause someone to decide that I am mean.  I realize that I shouldn't let this bother me and so I will do my best to let it go.  We come to know someone by the fruits of their labors.  I hope that the things that I do and the way that I conduct my life would produce fruits that would help people understand what is in my heart.  I hope that my own children feel my love for them and that they do not see me as mean. Well, what can I do?  I will not please everyone all of the time.  I will however, do my very best to conduct myself in a manner that would be pleasing to my Heavenly Father.  Certainly there are times in my life when I fall short of the example of the Savior and I am ever grateful for his loving Atonement that makes it possible for me to overcome those short falls and imperfections of my life.