Why are people shy? I don't know that I ask that in all sincerity or really wanting to know the answer. Perhaps I don't want to face myself and live with the answers to that particular question. You see, I have always been shy. If I don't have to say something I won't. If I don't have to try and carry on a conversation with someone I won't. Climbing out of my comfort zone to talk to someone is not something I am a fan of. The weird thing is that at work I can flip a switch and talk to anyone and do so fairly comfortably. Whether that was out selling air conditioners or helping people at The Little Brick House I seem to be able to pick it up without much of a problem.
So why so shy? Is there a study out there? Does it have something to do with confidence or the lack thereof? Here's the thing about me. I don't see myself as being very smart. I have been known, well self aware anyway, to be engaged in a conversation about something I have no idea what the person is talking about. I listen and I try to figure it out the best I can though sometimes it leaves me lost. Oh well, I am shy, who really cares? Of course once we get to know each other, once my wall has come down a bit, once I feel safe around someone then I am quite a bit more comfortable.
I probably had some deeper thoughts on this matter earlier but I am falling asleep and can't think of anything at the moment. I did got to the Singles institute class tonight and was in perfect loner form until a friend approached and started talking to me. The nerve. No, I was grateful for that nerve and for being forced out of my comfort zone.
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