Friday, March 18, 2011

No Pressure

I walked into the Little Brick House yesterday and went to say hi to mom and found my neighbor in the store with her little boy Joseph. She said hi and then said she knew this girl that I should go out with. Sweet. That is perhaps the most uncomfortable conversation that I find myself involved with. Well maybe not the most uncomfortable but it ranks up there. There are a lot of women out there. I know that there are a lot of good women out there and I guess I should be flattered when someone is excited to introduce me to a friend that they would like me to go out with. I am however, way out of my comfort zone when it comes to this type of thing. That said, I don't necessarily find myself tremendously excited with the idea of meeting a complete stranger. Then there is this awkward feeling that it is suppose to be something spectacular because someone feels like we would just be so good together.

I am sure for some this is not a big deal and going out on a date or meeting someone new is a cake walk. Not so for me. I am quite possibly the most shy of my siblings. Just am. The dating situation is also quite a bit different. It isn't just going out for me. I have a few things that I am quite concerned about. Their names are Natty, Jack and Andy. I am a packaged deal and so I just feel a need to have a certain level of comfort with someone before I really want to go out or do anything. I know that this requires that I meet them to begin with and so my comfort zone is going to have to expand but this is simply going to take time.

After my neighbor left yesterday mom told me that I need to get married before the summer. This will enable me to have two months alone with my new spouse allowing us to adjust to each other while the kids are with their mom in Alaska. Um, thanks mom. My reply was something along the lines of "not going to happen". Basically I would have to meet someone, get engaged and then married within the next two and a half months. Great idea mom. Hey, don't put any pressure on me or anything.

I am told in my Patriarchal Blessing to date the girl of my choice. I have been pretty good about that. Ma says she wants me to be happy. Well, I am happy mom. Yes there are times when I am lonely and would enjoy having that type of relationship in my life again but I am not ready to rush something.

I am grateful for family and friends that are thinking of me. My neighbor Marla came over and talked to me again as I was working on a few pieces of furniture out in the garage. She said she had talked to her friend after she saw me yesterday and she is game. Oh great. I told Marla that this stuff isn't easy for me. She has no quit and pressed forward with Facebook as a possible way for me to meet this girl. As of now I am a Facebook friend with a girl I have never met and have no idea what to do next.

So we will see who next approaches with some fantastic girl for me to meet. For those who have suggested someone, thank you. Really I am flattered but I am also quite reserved and quite shy. Mom, thank you for your concern and for your hopes for me. Someday I will get married again but you should not hold your breath for a pre-summer event because that is not happening. Great plan though. As for now, I will press forward at my own pace.

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